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Co-Parenting Through Divorce

All classes are at the Seminole County OSU Extension Center in the conference room. RSVP at 405-257-5433 See schedule below.

Co-parenting Through Divorce

The disruption of a family through separation or divorce inevitably has an impact upon children. They may be greatly stressed by this experience, and they may fear the loss of one or both of their  parents. The Seminole County Cooperative Extension Center offers a program for parents who may no longer be married but still share the responsibility of parenthood. Titled "Co-Parenting Through Divorce," the one-session workshop helps parents put their children's needs first both during and after the divorce. Seminole County judges, along with other county judges,  are ordering some parents to attend Extension's Co-Parenting Through Divorce workshop before their divorce will be granted. Judges are also sending parents to our one-time class who are modifying parent visitation and haven't had our class. Some parents voluntarily take the class after hearing about it without being ordered to do so. The workshop also helps parents see the new family structure from the child's perspective and helps them understand that co-parenting is a life-long process that goes beyond the current issues of divorce.  The workshop costs $20, and classes are offered monthly at the Seminole County Cooperative Extension Center, 110 South Wewoka Avenue in Wewoka, 2nd floor of the Courthouse.  Call 405-257-5433 for registration. 

*    Cost is $20
*    Co Parenting through Divorce is a 3-4 hour class that teaches parents how to help their children adjust to changes in their family lifestyle.
*    Please arrive 10 minutes early to sign in and receive credit for your attendance. Credit will not be given for late arrivals.
 *   Child care is not available. Do not bring children.

Parents may want to protect children from the pain and bitterness of a separation or divorce, but the best thing parents can do is be open and honest. Major changes need to be discussed with children. This will strengthen the parent-child relationship, lessen the child's feelings of guilt and responsibility, and open lines of communication for future talks. Following are some tips for helping children cope with divorce:

  1. Talk with children about what is going to happen.
  2. Describe what divorce means.
  3. Explain that your decision has come after careful thought.
  4. Do not blame anyone.
  5. Describe changes they can expect in their lives.
  6. Assure them that they will always be free to love both parents.
  7. Encourage children to ask questions.

Impact of Divorce Upon Children

How will divorce affect your children? This is difficult to answer because there is no single outcome. However, some important trends have emerged from research. For instance, a parent's emotional health is a significant factor in the child's adjustment. It is predictable that children will push a parent to the limit. Children can be tearful, moody, restless, or have difficulty sleeping or concentrating. Many parents ask at what age the child is most susceptible to problems. That isn't an easy question to answer. Generally, when parents separate:

Preschool children become more irritable and whining. Their symptoms are usually temporary as long as their physical needs are met and loving care is restored.

Five and six year olds become more anxious and aggressive, restless and moody.

Seven and eight year olds frequently experience sadness and grief. They often fear for their safety.

Nine to eleven year olds often direct their anger at the parent who they perceive caused the divorce.

Adolescents frequently feel anger, depression, guilt, and withdrawal. They often distance themselves as a defense against more pain.

College-age young people can also be deeply affected by their parents' divorce.

Research indicates that boys seem to be more affected by divorce than girls. They experience more depression and are more intensely preoccupied with the divorce. They long for their fathers more and feel rejected by their fathers. However, five years after the divorce, the gender of the child does not seem to be a factor in post-divorce adjustment.

Co-parenting Through Divorce

Schedule:

 October  29th  5-8p

 November 24th 1-4pm.  

December 4th 1-4pm

 

All classes are at the Seminole County OSU Extension Center.

RSVP at 405-257-5433